Teaching my child to adjust

When a new born baby arrives,young children often feel excited but also left out. They feel that you’re giving all your attention and love to the new baby. But being a parent how could you adjust your first born child? Here I can share some tips on how to help them adjust.

Giving some time to have one on one bonding with my daughter is my way to make her feel that I still have time for her. I and my partner have a routine in taking care of our new baby. Even how busy we are, we make sure that she knows that she is important to us. For example I and my daughter read story books and watch cartoons together.

Making our child familiar with the new baby. I let my first born child touch her little brother gently with my supervision. Sometimes I let her try to carry the baby.

During baby’s bath time I let her help me prepairing bath things and help dry the baby after. I also praise our older child. I always say to her” Caleb is very lucky to have you as his big sister because you are so helpful and lovable”. Breastfeeding my little one gives also a time to bond with his older sister. She is always watching and laughing with her brother and asking me if she did that before when she is a baby. I told her that what and how caleb is doing is the same when she is a baby before. And I explain to her how important is the milk to make the baby grow strong and healty.

We as a parent also need to appreciate and do not get mad to the help of our child even sometimes it is not helpful. There are times that my child swing her little brother faster. I told her that its not the proper way of swinging a baby,for I know that she wants only to make lullaby her brother.

All our children needs our warm and loving relationship with them. We can build and strenghten our relationship with them by giving positive attention. For it makes them feel they are safe and secure. It also shows that we are equal in treating them.

Juggling a new born baby and a toddler is difficult, but based on my experience of being a second time mom it feels me that its only a traditional period, and a time to cherish as it goes by so quickly. Asking some help and support is part of it and consider the needs of each child is important. But even we have lots of work and responsibilities we need to take care of ourself because I believe that I cannot fully take care of my children if I’m not taking care of my self.